The calendar has changed from December to January and a new year is in front of us ready to be lived! It could be an exciting or terrifying time depending how you look at it. A stepping off point of moving out of your comfort zone and making a positive change.
What does each day hold? Standing at the start of a year is when most people make resolutions. They want to make a change, thought about changes, but don’t want to be uncomfortable walking into the land of the unknown.
Moving out of our comfort zone is all about taking an action. Whether it’s going to a movie alone, signing up for a class, refraining from a habit or volunteering, any change from the tried and true opens up a whole new world. A sense of satisfaction and feeling good about ourselves sets in. Any type of change in behavior or attitude deserves a pat on the back no matter how small you think it might be.
Try something new and if you don’t like it, try something else. Be honest with yourself about why you don’t want to continue - don’t allow FEAR to stop you. If fear looms, write about it and talk about it.
Keep in mind that it takes more than one try to learn something and be comfortable. I do my best laughing when I try something new and it usually gives others around me permission to laugh at themselves too.
Do you have a personal plan? Are you brave enough to be under construction?
Why do we celebrate turning a page of the calendar from December to January? I’ve never known anyone to celebrate March turning to April or September to October. Have you?
I decided to do some research because there must be reason. I found a few interesting facts among the plethora of information on the web.
"The gift is to the giver, and comes back most to him - it cannot fail” ~ Walt Whitman
The quote is so appropriate for this time of year and for each day that follows. Around the world, Jewish people start to celebrate Chanukah the night of December 12th and Christians celebrate Christmas on December 25th.
While the two groups have different religious beliefs and traditions, they both include gift giving on their holiday.
Many people search for the perfect gift to give. They go from one store to another, checking websites in between, to find something specific or to get an idea. What can I get for him or her becomes the mantra.
Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream is a pre-school song we all learned that evolved over the years to our singing it with others; singing in a round with each voice beginning at a different time and ending with “life is but a dream”.
The song made me think about learning to row a boat. It’s difficult to learn how to use both oars at the same time in order to go straight. Even if we use one oar at a time they have to be timed just right so we don’t end up going around in circles. We have to learn little by little, one step at a time, with patience and practice to get it just right.
The process of trying anything new is no different; always a challenge that takes patience and a time investment. A positive result happens more often than not depending on the effort we put forth. Playing the piano the first time sounds nothing like it does after a month of practice or six months after that.
As Thanksgiving arrives people tend to reflect and look at being grateful in different ways. Some of us practice gratitude throughout the year and others, it’s only in the month of November.
A lot of people really struggle around the holidays because they have lost loved ones or relive difficult memories that have impacted their lives. Others complain about their crazy family and the camaraderie over the holidays is a little too much to bear.
Thanksgiving is an American holiday celebrated once a year. Food, drink and the gathering of people we like (or don't but feel responsible to have around) happens in homes throughout the country.
For me, being grateful and thankful is an everyday happening. Getting together with people I care about doesn't have to be a holiday.
The focus of each day should be GRATITUDE, being THANKFUL for "what is". Keeping a daily gratitude list is an important reminder that all my needs are met and I have every thing I need to create a good life.
It’s that time of year again. The time of year when Hallmark Channel kicks off 24-hour a day “fantasy” holiday movies.
Holiday time is portrayed in commercials, television shows and of course movies as a wonderfully happy, joyous time surrounded by love ones and the one scrooge that comes around in about an hour to join with the others. “Real life” never measures up to the expectations we have consciously or unconsciously. .
Memories of holidays past – difficult or good – play a major role in how life unfolds. We remember the sad and the happy that no longer exists. We tend to eat, drink and party too much if invited or eat, drink and sit home alone depressed if not.
How do you cope with the holidays? What tools can you use to be “part of” rather than “apart from”? Knowing yourself and planning is a great place to start.
I started to write on one topic when another surfaced - hiding! Physically hiding can be not answering the phone, emails and texts or leaving the house.
Emotionally hiding is not acknowledging an issue or sharing with a close friend or family member the reality of what's going on. It would be so easy to hide under the bed and avoid facing an issue that has the power to impact your life.
As I face yet another life lesson, it is always clear that acceptance is most important. There are never answers to "why" - Y is just a letter in the alphabet.
There may not be an answer to Y but there is always an answer to how to cope with life on life's terms. Pull out your tool box and pick up a tool. Journaling is always my first choice. What tools do you have in your tool box?
Whether we like it or not, our past – the good, the bad and the ugly – becomes the foundation for our future.
Some choose to live year after year in the bad or ugly and never move on from the hurts and pain they have experienced. Could it be they never learned there are action tools available to move forward – that reconstruction is possible?
It’s never too late to uncover and discover. Learn how long ago incidences impact life “today”. We can’t make changes until we become aware. The Color Outside The Lines healing journal is a great tool to help. What do you have to lose except some misery?