4th of July - Independence Day is right around the corner. It got me thinking about the holiday, the history and specifically the word, independent.
A few thesaurus entries I found were self-governing, self-sufficient, self-regulating, and free. It’s necessary for a country that’s independent to maintain relationships with others as allies, as a support in times of need.
People who consider themselves independent and self-sufficient also keep others within reach as a support and to enrich their lives. Having others around us doesn’t take away our ability to stand strong unless we allow them to. The safe and trustworthy people we choose to be part of our life is a gift we continually appreciate.
There are Individuals who call themselves independent while isolating, convincing themselves that sharing, being real with another person, would take something from their existence. Life becomes very small, unhealthy when we cannot share our thoughts and feelings with at least one person. Being fearful of revealing ourselves – hopes, joys, fears and struggles - to at least one other safe person closes us off to living a fully realized life.
Are you independent with strong relationships? Are you independent and alone living with the fear “if you really knew me …”? Declare a personal indepence day. Think about it. Try journaling about the gifts you have or could have in your life if you allow people to "know you".
June, the month of graduations. For at least 12 years we attend school, take exams to see if we learned the material that was taught and then advance or do the lesson again.
Life is a much larger school – education is more extensive. Helpful tools to use while navigating life school are introspection, self-awareness and action to be the best person we can be. If we pay attention in life school, we continue to get lessons; some easy, some difficult. We are tested over and over again to see if we’ve learned what can be applied to a different situation down the road.
When life school comes to an end we inherently know if we failed, graduated by the skin of our teeth or did well. Our behaviors and self-knowledge through the years becomes our diploma.
Congratulations to all the 2018 school graduates. And to those paying attention in life school, I wish you easy lessons ahead!