As Thanksgiving arrives people tend to reflect and look at being grateful in different ways. Some of us practice gratitude throughout the year and others, it’s only in the month of November.
A lot of people really struggle around the holidays because they have lost loved ones or relive difficult memories that have impacted their lives. Others complain about their crazy family and the camaraderie over the holidays is a little too much to bear.
Thanksgiving is an American holiday celebrated once a year. Food, drink and the gathering of people we like (or don't but feel responsible to have around) happens in homes throughout the country.
For me, being grateful and thankful is an everyday happening. Getting together with people I care about doesn't have to be a holiday.
The focus of each day should be GRATITUDE, being THANKFUL for "what is". Keeping a daily gratitude list is an important reminder that all my needs are met and I have every thing I need to create a good life.
It’s that time of year again. The time of year when Hallmark Channel kicks off 24-hour a day “fantasy” holiday movies.
Holiday time is portrayed in commercials, television shows and of course movies as a wonderfully happy, joyous time surrounded by love ones and the one scrooge that comes around in about an hour to join with the others. “Real life” never measures up to the expectations we have consciously or unconsciously. .
Memories of holidays past – difficult or good – play a major role in how life unfolds. We remember the sad and the happy that no longer exists. We tend to eat, drink and party too much if invited or eat, drink and sit home alone depressed if not.
How do you cope with the holidays? What tools can you use to be “part of” rather than “apart from”? Knowing yourself and planning is a great place to start.
I started to write on one topic when another surfaced - hiding! Physically hiding can be not answering the phone, emails and texts or leaving the house.
Emotionally hiding is not acknowledging an issue or sharing with a close friend or family member the reality of what's going on. It would be so easy to hide under the bed and avoid facing an issue that has the power to impact your life.
As I face yet another life lesson, it is always clear that acceptance is most important. There are never answers to "why" - Y is just a letter in the alphabet.
There may not be an answer to Y but there is always an answer to how to cope with life on life's terms. Pull out your tool box and pick up a tool. Journaling is always my first choice. What tools do you have in your tool box?