It’s that time of year again. The time of year when the Hallmark Channels kick off 24-hour a day “fantasy” holiday movies.
Holiday time is portrayed in commercials, television shows and of course movies as a wonderfully happy, joyous time surrounded by love ones.
There's always the one scrooge who learns a lesson and all is right with the world after the two hour movie. “Real life” however never measures up to what the writers dreamed up. Expectations we have consciously or unconsciously during holiday time are dangerous to our mental health.
Memories of holidays past – difficult or good – play a major role in how life unfolds. We remember the sad or the happy that no longer exists. People tend to eat, drink and party too much if invited or eat, drink and sit home alone depressed if not.
How do you cope with the holidays? What tools can you use to be “part of” rather than “apart from”? Planning is a great place to start. Old patterns do not have to continue if you look inward and become aware. Journaling is always a good option at any time.