4th of July - Independence Day is right around the corner. It got me thinking about the holiday, the history and specifically the word, independent.
A few thesaurus entries I found were self-governing, self-sufficient, self-regulating, and free. It’s necessary for a country that’s independent to maintain relationships with others as allies, as a support in times of need.
People who consider themselves independent and self-sufficient also keep others within reach as a support and to enrich their lives. Having others around us doesn’t take away our ability to stand strong unless we allow them to. The safe and trustworthy people we choose to be part of our life is a gift we continually appreciate.
There are Individuals who call themselves independent while isolating, convincing themselves that sharing, being real with another person, would take something from their existence. Life becomes very small, unhealthy when we cannot share our thoughts and feelings with at least one person. Being fearful of revealing ourselves – hopes, joys, fears and struggles - to at least one other safe person closes us off to living a fully realized life.
Are you independent with strong relationships? Are you independent and alone living with the fear “if you really knew me …”? Declare a personal indepence day. Think about it. Try journaling about the gifts you have or could have in your life if you allow people to "know you".
June, the month of graduations. For at least 12 years we attend school, take exams to see if we learned the material that was taught and then advance or do the lesson again.
Life is a much larger school – education is more extensive. Helpful tools to use while navigating life school are introspection, self-awareness and action to be the best person we can be. If we pay attention in life school, we continue to get lessons; some easy, some difficult. We are tested over and over again to see if we’ve learned what can be applied to a different situation down the road.
When life school comes to an end we inherently know if we failed, graduated by the skin of our teeth or did well. Our behaviors and self-knowledge through the years becomes our diploma.
Congratulations to all the 2018 school graduates. And to those paying attention in life school, I wish you easy lessons ahead!
Your mind is who you are and what you will become. When you love and appreciate yourself, you will accept and acknowledge that of which your thoughts know and your heart feels. With that I give you the belief of your spirit.
Tommy Doc B Blaché
There’s always something that doesn’t go exactly the way we want it to. While someone not taking out the trash when they should and hearing a difficult medical diagnosis are on different ends of an invisible ruler of difficult events, how we react to each is important to our emotional mental health that affects our body.
Finding a healthy way to cope with issues that don’t go our way is important.
As an advocate of journaling, that’s always what I suggest to people. It gets to thoughts and feelings we don’t even consciously know is bothering us.
What healthy “tools” work for you when things don’t happen exactly the way you want them to?
There is always something to be grateful for regardless of circumstances. Someone’s not taking out the trash? Why do you keep that person around? Is there something about that person you are grateful for? Living with physical pain? A disease? Sometimes you have to dig for what you’re grateful for. I promise – there is always something to be grateful for!
Why do we hold on to mementos, reminders of the past? Are we "what we do"? Are we defined by our accomplishments?
The retired teacher has over flowing files of lesson plans at home in a cabinet, the business person hangs award plaques on the den wall, the writer stores years of newspaper stories in an old trunk while the architect keeps years of outdated blueprints.
Why do some of us hold on tightly to tangible evidence of what we have done, what we've accomplished in the past?
I am a woman who has worn many hats in the course of my life. I believe who I am can be defined without saying anything about what I've "done" in life.
What about you? Do you know who you are without attaching it to what you've "done"? Sounds like a good topic to think and journal about.
December is known as “the holidays” while January is “resolution time”. Let’s not forget February, the month that features, Hallmark cards, hearts, chocolate, flowers and love because of Valentine’s Day.
Love is a small four letter word with definitions that can differ from person to person. People throw the word around loosely to express feelings towards their car, clothes, food and the weather. We say we love a pet, friend, spouse, and family but what does that really mean? Words are one thing and expression through actions is another.
Many wise people write and speak of love and compassion. And preface it all with love of self; If we don’t love and accept ourselves as we are, we can’t truly love another.
Do you love yourself? How do you show love to yourself and to another living, breathing animal or person? What about humanity as a whole?
The broad questions are good to think about but can be used to journal, to go beyond initial responses and the swirling first thought response. Try it and see what happens.
The calendar has changed from December to January and a new year is in front of us ready to be lived! It could be an exciting or terrifying time depending how you look at it. A stepping off point of moving out of your comfort zone and making a positive change.
What does each day hold? Standing at the start of a year is when most people make resolutions. They want to make a change, thought about changes, but don’t want to be uncomfortable walking into the land of the unknown.
Moving out of our comfort zone is all about taking an action. Whether it’s going to a movie alone, signing up for a class, refraining from a habit or volunteering, any change from the tried and true opens up a whole new world. A sense of satisfaction and feeling good about ourselves sets in. Any type of change in behavior or attitude deserves a pat on the back no matter how small you think it might be.
Try something new and if you don’t like it, try something else. Be honest with yourself about why you don’t want to continue - don’t allow FEAR to stop you. If fear looms, write about it and talk about it.
Keep in mind that it takes more than one try to learn something and be comfortable. I do my best laughing when I try something new and it usually gives others around me permission to laugh at themselves too.
Do you have a personal plan? Are you brave enough to be under construction?
Why do we celebrate turning a page of the calendar from December to January? I’ve never known anyone to celebrate March turning to April or September to October. Have you?
I decided to do some research because there must be reason. I found a few interesting facts among the plethora of information on the web.