Life: a mixture of days with laughter and tears - sadness and joy. It may sometimes feel like the balance is off and you have more days of sadness, loss, illness, or other challenges than happiness. When you feel this way, it's important to look at how you cope.
Do you use substances, food, sex, spending, hiding under the covers or do you use healthy coping skills? What we do to live life – through the good, the bad and the ugly times - shouldn’t take away the reality of “feelings” but allow us to handle whatever is going on. In other words, live life on life’s terms.
Many find journaling a great way to deal with feelings. If used the right way, humor and laughter is a good tool during life crises. It shouldn’t be used to cover up or avoid feelings but to help deal with them.
There’s nothing funny about death but laughter can be heard at wakes and funerals when people tell stories about the person’s life. There is nothing funny about a disease being diagnosed but it’s important to find humor in the medical procedures that are beyond what a science fiction author could dream up and the fact that doctors take the place of friends on speed dial.
Laughter is healing. It stimulates the heart and respiratory system, increases circulation and exercises stomach and chest muscles. The results are similar to the benefits from physical exercise.
There are groups in Asian countries that meet in the park to laugh. Yes, that’s right. They fake laughs. If something mimics the real thing, it works. Laughter is contagious. Watch someone laugh and you start yourself. Make believe a laugh looking in the mirror and you'll start laughing for real.
We were taught to never swim alone, to swim with a buddy. How about a laugh buddy? Are you laughing at the thought? If you need one, let me know. It’s what gets me through the day.